Lately I’ve been trying to intentionally push myself out of my comfort zone, which I admit has expanded quite a bit in the few years already.
One of my biggest struggles is putting myself out there, and meeting new people. I tend to function much better in smaller, intimate settings, and often find myself disoriented, and very restless at large gatherings of people.
I am most often at stasis, or going through my varying routines at my own pace, on my own terms.
But I do feel that a part of my goals will be better achieved if I am able to put myself out there, in new environments, amongst strangers. I recently applied for a job that would let me do this. Propelled by responsibility, I will have to do it.
To do something I don’t like to do requires a great deal of energy and mental self-psyching.
I have three habits I follow whenever I have to do something like this, from interviews, going to an event, or public speaking etc.
- Dress well.
- Listen to the right music.
- Reward myself after.
It is important.
What I wear can change the way I feel, and the way I emote and express myself.
The right outfit supports me as I emphasize different parts of myself, and play up particular traits, habits and strengths that will help me maneuver the social situations I am in.
In this way, fashion is an extension of my self-construct. It moulds me as I wear it. It wears me as I mould it.
I don’t pick my outfits based on trends. I mostly wait for my intuition to tell me this feels right. This is what I need right now, in this moment.
Fashion is performative because we are performative.
I love how every battle I walk into has its own suit.